Thursday again! Time to do a little "pondering" with Brenda from Fiction With a Purpose.
Her rules are really easy:
1. Grab the Pondering with a Purpose Badge (in her sidebar)
2. Look at the week's prompt
3.
Post something on your blog that relates to the prompt - it can be a
story, a poem, a picture -- anything you want it to be.
4. Go back here and add the URL from your post to the linky list on Brenda's.
5. Go check out the other bloggers who have added their links to the list.
6. AND most of all.... Have fun!
I do learn from my mistakes. I no longer let people take advantage of me and I will no longer tolerate the intolerable just to be in a "romantic" relationship with a man. Maybe this means that I will never have that sort of relationship again - who knows. If that's the way it is, so be it.
It has been said that I am bitter but I don't believe that's true. I'm just smarter. What's mine is mine, I've worked for it and I'm keeping it. I support myself and will help my children if they need it but I will not support anyone who does not want to support themselves. I once had a man say to me, "You supported your ex for 10 years, why can't you support me?" Really?!! Don't think so buddy.
I do have a man in my life and while it may not be a "romantic" thing, he pulls his weight. He helps financially and has helped a lot with the remodeling of the house. He's a good person and a good companion and that's enough.
Sorry about the "man bashing" today - I haven't done that in a long time and I do know that there are still a lot of good ones out there.
I think that you are being wise. I have been single for 20 years after a 20+ year marriage. I did learn from my mistakes, and I now have a value on myself and I will not be used by anyone. Not bitter, just smarter.
ReplyDeleteNOW that I've picked myself up off the floor from laughing so hard... I am right there with you sister!
ReplyDeleteBeen single going on 19 years and although still believe in love... don't think it is in my cards.... I seem to attract that type of 'needy' man who believes I should do it all and they should reap the benefits....
Thanks for pondering with me
It's not bashing if it's true.
ReplyDeleteAnd some men certainly don't deserve the title of being called a "Man".
A real man takes care of those in his care, and those he cares for.
Accept nothing less, because I say you are better off alone than having someone dragging behind on your coat-tails.
And I do think most men, would rise to the occasion - in fact Want to rise to the occasion, if given the opportunity. and perhaps a little encouragement.
otherwise, "to the curb" with your bad self! LOL
Very interesting answers.
ReplyDeleteGood for you from learning from your history and knowing that you don't want to make the same mistakes in relationships again. Now stop by and read mine and see where that new perspective can lead. I testify that things you never expect can and do happen in life! :-)
ReplyDeleteGlad to hear you are in a better relationship...history does teach us.
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