Thursday again! Time to do a little "pondering" with Brenda from Ponderings of an Author.
Her rules are really easy:
1. Grab the Pondering with a Purpose Badge (in her sidebar)
2. Look at the week's prompt
3.
Post something on your blog that relates to the prompt - it can be a
story, a poem, a picture -- anything you want it to be.
4. Go back here and add the URL from your post to the linky list on Brenda's.
5. Go check out the other bloggers who have added their links to the list.
6. AND most of all.... Have fun!
I have been told that I am TOO independent but it is something that has developed out of need. I have had to depend on myself because there was no one else to depend on. I've been single for 20+ years. Before that I was married for almost 10 years to a man who had no desire to help me with anything. I was able to go to my dad when things were DIRE but that option was a "last resort."
I wish I had had the opportunity to be able to depend on a partner to help me but since I wasn't, I've learned to be a very independent person. That, at times has probably been a factor in why I never remarried. I've gotten used to doing things my way and I have a very hard time trusting anyone else to help. It was "me and my kids" for years and it really still is. I would turn over backwards to help them if they needed it - and find a way to make it all work out. Plan A, Plan B, Plan C.......... "if at first you don't succeed, try, try, again." That's the way it is with me and I don't forsee it changing.
So... independent? Definitely, and actually quite proud of it. What is mine, is mine because I have worked for it and will continue to do so.
My mother always says the first time tou marry you marry for love - the second time for money. Don't give up hope in finding a partner - I have met some recently married couples on our cruises who are in the 70s and 80s.
ReplyDeleteBeing alone I have to be independent. I don't always like it though.
ReplyDeleteEven if I remarried, I would have to have my independence. I have to be able to follow my own star. Others can walk along beside me, but not force me to take their path.
ReplyDeleteSometimes we're kind of forced into independence, huh? You should be proud of what you've been able to do on your own :)
ReplyDeleteI could say EXACTLY the same words that you have writtne (no big surprise there...)
ReplyDeleteAlthough it would be nice to have someone else... I'm not sure I'm cut out for that anymore.
Thanks for pondering with me!
I'm married, but still independent. It's sort of out of necessity (he works really long hours) and sort of because that's just how I am and as I get older I notice I'm getting more so, I think.
ReplyDeleteI have the plan always in place also even though I am married I was alone raising my kids for so many years before Michael I still hang on to certain independent things and he is ok with that so it works but I have plans A B C in place at all times ! Thanks for finding me :) I smiled when I seen you on my blog :))
ReplyDeleteI admire your independence and what you have made of your life.
ReplyDeleteA nicely written post...
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