Thursday again! Time to do a little "pondering" with Brenda from Ponderings of an Author.
Her rules are really easy:
1. Grab the Pondering with a Purpose Badge (in her sidebar)
2. Look at the week's prompt
3.
Post something on your blog that relates to the prompt - it can be a
story, a poem, a picture -- anything you want it to be.
4. Go back here and add the URL from your post to the linky list on Brenda's.
5. Go check out the other bloggers who have added their links to the list.
6. AND most of all.... Have fun!
This Week's prompt: Involvement
Brenda has heard the following quote:
"Your children are off on their own with their own lives now, you need
to be less involved with them every day." Her question this week is whether or not we agree with that statement.I wholeheartedly disagree. I will never be "less involved" with my children. They are my main achievement in life - what I have given to make this world a better place. Now, I don't poke my nose in their business every day and I don't try to run their lives. I don't even talk to them every day. But that does not mean that I am not involved. I will always be involved. They know they can call me at any time for advice and I can call them when I just need to hear their voices.
On the other hand, I never had that kind of relationship with my own mother. I do speak to her, usually she calls about once a week. But I don't tell her anything. It is always a very generic conversation - to her disdain. But I know that whatever I were to tell her, she would have to say that I was doing something wrong - no matter what the subject was. I think that's why my relationship with my children has always been so important to me and why I have strived to make that relationship a good one.
Tami --- are you sure we're not related????
ReplyDeleteI do believe you and I strive for the type of relationship with our children we wished we had had with our own mother....
I am so conscientious of not turning into her...not passing judgements and letting my kids come to me when they need help rather that offer unsolicited advice.
I had to laugh when I read you call them when you need to hear their voices... I do the same thing :)
Thanks for Pondering with me!
Your mother and your relationship sound a lot like what I had with my mother. I too am close with my children and they with me, but my mother was always one to very secretive about anything, but still, I miss those days, even the ones she drove me absolutely crazy!
ReplyDeleteI feel sorry for any parent who doesn't remain involved with their children. Your answer was right on.
ReplyDeleteI used to have trouble with my mother however it was teenage angst. Once I left home we became good friends. I think in a lot of ways I am following her footsteps. I would like to thank my grandmother for the foundation the women in our family have with each other.
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